I’m learning to agree with essential truth of both sides. I have learned to, “agree to disagree” by giving time to listen and detach myself from ideas that are territorial. My territory is peace; not offense. Being offended is like the survival mode of an injured animal. Being open-minded is the healing feeling of safety. For me to heal my temper and my pain, requires my awareness of triggers, words, memories, and myself. I’ve learned that my insecurity comes from the mistaken beliefs of previous experience and assumptions. Maybe this is what “baggage” means — assuming things are going bad, when really, things are just fine. I will stay present with myself, where I can reflect on the possibility that the difficulties before me, are really new beginnings.